The challenge The difference How it works Our joint commitment FAQ

Parenting is your most important job. Don't wing it.

Hatley supercharges your AI into your dream parenting partner.

Context matters. Turn talk into actions, actions into habits, and habits into character —
for you and your kids.

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Works with Claude, ChatGPT, Mistral · Or use Hatley directly —
same family data, same coaching

The challenge

You're juggling more than any generation before you

Both parents working. Aging parents. Inflation. AI reshaping jobs overnight. The demands keep stacking — and the advice landscape is designed to capture your attention, not improve your outcomes.

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Your kids get what's left of you

By the time you're done with bosses, customers, colleagues, and deadlines, your social and emotional energy is spent. The people who matter most get whatever's left. When you pause to reflect, the regret hits — but you're too exhausted to break the cycle.

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The “free” advice is designed to monetize you

If the product is free, you are the product. TikTok tips, Instagram reels, ad-supported chatbots — their incentive is to keep you scrolling, not help your child. Anthropic (the makers of Claude) poked at exactly this during the Super Bowl. It's funny — but the underlying point is real.

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Even good AI tells you what you want to hear, not what you need to hear

Generic AI gives advice that sounds helpful — but it's designed to please you, not challenge you. It doesn't know your child, won't push back when you're reinforcing the wrong pattern, and won't flag something that needs real attention. Advice is cheap. The hard part is context — knowing your family, tracking what actually works, and turning talk into actions, actions into habits, and habits into character. That's what Hatley does.

The difference

Same moment. Three very different outcomes.

These are real situations from one family. What happened when there was no system — and what changed when there was.

😤 You lost it this morning — and you know it
Wing it
You carry the guilt through the day. Nothing gets examined. The same conditions produce the same result next week.
Generic AI
“It sounds like a stressful morning. Try to be kind to yourself.” Kind words. But nothing changes. The pattern stays invisible.
AI + Hatley
“The 9am pressure is yours, not theirs. They weren't running late — you were. The morning problem starts the night before. If they're going to bed late, there's no buffer. That's a structural problem, not a behaviour problem.” No judgment. A real diagnosis. And a fix that actually changed the mornings. Read the full story →
🎾 Your kid has a meltdown on the sports court — in front of everyone
Wing it
You try to reason with the kid mid-spiral. It makes it worse. Silent drive home. You go to your office and close the door. Nothing changes next Saturday.
Generic AI
“Try deep breathing or a calm-down corner.” Reasonable advice — for someone. Just not grounded in this child, this moment, or the pattern building behind it.
AI + Hatley
Hatley has been tracking Frustration Tolerance — there's now a supporting series of data points. It gives you a repair script calibrated to the kid's age, surfaces the Emoji Wall so they can name what they're feeling, and schedules a pre-game commitment talk for next Saturday before you even ask. Read the full story →
The chess club recap arrives — buried in it, a note about a state tournament
Wing it
You skim it, miss the tournament mention, and never ask the coach whether your kid is ready. The window closes. A year from now the field looks completely different.
Generic AI
You'd have to find the email yourself, paste it in, and know to ask. No history on results, no coach outreach, no sense of whether the timing matters. Next chat, it's gone.
AI + Hatley
At sign-up, Hatley gives you a family inbox — yourfamily@home.hatley.ai — to give to every school, coach, and program. The recap lands there, Hatley indexes it before you open your phone, flags the tournament given the back-to-back results, and drafts coach outreach when you raise doubts about readiness. Two replies in: honest level assessment, environment picture, trophy math. You sign up with confidence. Read the full story →

How it works

Three minutes to set up. A lifetime of context.

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Choose how to use Hatley

Option A: Connect Hatley to your AI — add it as a connector in Claude, ChatGPT, or Mistral. One link, one login.

Option B: Use Hatley directly — our web app works on any device. Same data, same coaching.

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Talk about your kids naturally

No forms. Just talk to your AI like you already do. Hatley captures what matters behind the scenes.

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Watch it get smarter over time

Every conversation compounds. Your AI learns what works for your family and keeps both parents in sync.

Our joint commitment

Parenting is hard. We're not here to make it easy — but to make the right way easier.

We're here to make it more intentional — so the hard days feel less painful and the good days feel even more rewarding.

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Growth mindset, alwaysEvery child is a work in progress. So is every parent.
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Assume the best intentBehind every challenging behavior is a child still learning.
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No judgment, everYou're here because you care. We're in this together.
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Your data, your controlEncrypted, family-isolated, never sold. Delete anytime.

FAQ

Common questions

Yes. Core features like recording moments and getting personalized guidance are free during our introductory period — and we're committed to keeping moment logging free permanently. Your family's data belongs to you, always.

Because you already have enough apps. Hatley is designed to fold into the tools you're already using — Claude, ChatGPT, Mistral — so there's nothing new to learn and no new habit to build. Just talk to your AI like you normally would, and Hatley works behind the scenes.

We also have a web app at hatley.ai where you can chat with Hatley directly, review your family's history, and manage your account. It works on any device — phone, tablet, or laptop. Add it to your home screen and it functions just like a native app, with instant updates and no downloads.

ChatGPT gives decent advice — but starts from zero every chat. It doesn't know your child's triggers, what you tried last week, or whether the timer worked. With Hatley, your AI says “last time, the 3-breath reset helped — try it again?” instead of the same generic answer. ChatGPT alone is a parenting hotline. ChatGPT + Hatley is a parenting advisor who's known your family for years.

Hatley's coaching is built on three layers.

The first is clinical research. Our frameworks are grounded in leading developmental science — including the Gottman Institute's emotion coaching methodology, Dr. Dan Siegel's whole-brain child development approach, Dr. Ross Greene's Collaborative & Proactive Solutions model, Zones of Regulation, and more. These aren't trending tips — they're peer-reviewed research, adapted for your child's specific age and temperament.

The second is aggregate behavioral data. As families use Hatley to log moments, try strategies, and track outcomes, we learn which approaches tend to work for children at similar ages with similar challenges. When your AI recommends something, it's weighted by what's proven effective in practice — not just what sounds good in a textbook.

The third is your family's own history. Hatley tracks every strategy you've tried, whether it worked, and under what conditions. Over time, it builds a personalized playbook — stopping what failed, doubling down on what's working, and connecting insights across bedtime, homework, meltdowns, and everything in between.

Absolutely. Hatley uses an open standard (MCP) — your family's data isn't locked to any platform. Switch between Claude, ChatGPT, Mistral, or any future AI that supports connectors. Your history comes with you.

Your family's data is encrypted and isolated. Hatley only stores structured moments and plans — not raw conversations. We never sell or share your data. You can request complete deletion anytime. We're building toward full local storage so your data never has to leave your device.

Yes. Forward anything about your kids to ingest@hatley.ai — school updates from Seesaw, Tadpoles, Brightwheel, ParentSquare, HiMama, teacher notes, activity confirmations, whatever matters. We intelligently parse it, link it to the right child, and store it permanently.

No more losing years of updates when your child changes schools or a subscription lapses. Hatley becomes the permanent record. Your forwarding email address must match your Hatley account email.

Most AI gives you a good answer and then it's gone. Hatley closes the loop. When Claude suggests a pre-game commitment talk before Saturday’s session, or a repair conversation tonight, those suggestions become action cards in the Hatley dashboard — scheduled, trackable, and logged when done. You can mark them complete, thumbs-up what worked, and dismiss what didn’t. That feedback is what lets Hatley learn what actually works for your child over time, not just what sounds right in theory.

The same applies to events. When school and enrichment emails land in your Hatley family inbox or are forwarded to ingest@hatley.ai, Hatley parses the dates, deadlines, and program details automatically. Coach recaps, enrollment windows, permission slips, camp confirmations — they all become context Claude can see and act on. Ask about summer planning and it already knows the enrollment constraints. Ask about next week and it already knows what’s scheduled. Nothing falls through the cracks because Hatley was there when the email arrived.

Each theme your child has — whether it’s Frustration Tolerance, Intellectual Curiosity, or a long-range goal like school admissions — has its own dashboard with four tabs.

Summary shows the current state in plain language, what’s coming next on the timeline, and any related documents Hatley has ingested — course guides, coach recaps, assessment results. It’s the briefing before you open Claude.

Actions has two sections: suggested actions Claude has surfaced based on recent context, and active actions you’ve accepted and are working on. You can activate a suggestion, dismiss it, or mark it done — and Hatley records the outcome either way.

Evidence shows the logged moments and signals that built the theme — so you can see exactly what pattern Hatley detected and why it made a specific recommendation.

Enrichments tracks the programs, classes, and activities connected to this theme, including session history and what the enrichment is actually building in your child over time.

The whole dashboard is designed so that when you open Claude and ask about this child, Hatley has already assembled the picture. The conversation starts informed, not from zero.

Hatley Castle in British Columbia — the filming location for Professor Xavier's School for Gifted Youngsters in the X-Men films. We believe every child has superpowers waiting to be discovered and nurtured. Fun fact: the founder was married there.

Yes, two ways. If you use Hatley through Claude or ChatGPT, your AI can create Google Calendar events directly through its native integration. In the Hatley web app, coaching actions have a “Schedule” button that generates a standard calendar file (.ics) — tap it, pick a date, and your phone's calendar app opens with the event ready to confirm. Works with Apple Calendar, Google Calendar, Outlook, and any other calendar app. No login or permissions required.

Plan templates are structured preparation roadmaps for specific goals — like preparing for school admissions, developmental assessments, or enrichment milestones. When you adopt a template, Hatley creates a master plan with sub-themes and suggested milestones automatically. You customize the timeline and track progress step by step. Think of it as a project plan for your child's development, grounded in what actually works.

It depends on how you use Hatley. If you want to connect Hatley to Claude or ChatGPT, yes — Claude requires Pro or Team, and ChatGPT requires Pro/Team/Enterprise with Developer Mode. Mistral works with a free account.

You can also use Hatley directly at hatley.ai without any AI subscription at all. Our web app gives you the same coaching, the same family data, and the same features — no third-party AI account needed.