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Parenting is your most important job. Don't wing it.

Hatley transforms your AI from smart assistant to wise parenting partner.

Context matters. Turn talk into actions, actions into habits, and habits into character — for you and your kids.

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Works with Claude, ChatGPT, Mistral · Or use Hatley directly — same family data, same coaching

The challenge

You're juggling more than any generation before you

Both parents working. Aging parents. Inflation. AI reshaping jobs overnight. The demands keep stacking — and the advice landscape is designed to capture your attention, not improve your outcomes.

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Your kids get what's left of you

By the time you're done with bosses, customers, colleagues, and deadlines, your social and emotional energy is spent. The people who matter most get whatever's left. When you pause to reflect, the regret hits — but you're too exhausted to break the cycle.

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The "free" advice is designed to monetize you

If the product is free, you are the product. TikTok tips, Instagram reels, ad-supported chatbots — their incentive is to keep you scrolling, not help your child. Anthropic (the makers of Claude) poked at exactly this during the Super Bowl. It's funny — but the underlying point is real.

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Even good AI tells you what you want to hear, not what you need to hear

Generic AI gives advice that sounds helpful — but it's designed to please you, not challenge you. It doesn't know your child, won't push back when you're reinforcing the wrong pattern, and won't flag something that needs real attention. Advice is cheap. The hard part is context — knowing your family, tracking what actually works, and turning talk into actions, actions into habits, and habits into character. That's what Hatley does.

The difference

Same moment. Three very different outcomes.

These are real situations from one family. What happened when there was no system — and what changed when there was.

🎾 Your kid has a meltdown on the sports court — in front of everyone
Wing it
You try to reason with him mid-spiral. It makes it worse. Silent drive home. You go to your office and close the door. Nothing changes next Saturday.
Generic AI
"Try deep breathing or a calm-down corner." Reasonable. Completely untethered from this specific child, this specific moment, and the seven times it's happened before.
AI + Hatley
Hatley has been tracking Frustration Tolerance Under Performance Pressure since October — this is data point seven. It gives you a repair script calibrated to his age, surfaces the Emoji Wall so he can name what he's feeling, and schedules a pre-game commitment talk for next Saturday before you even ask. Read the full story →
📧 The teacher emails about a behavior problem at school
Wing it
You talk to your child, reinforce expectations, and hope it was a one-off. The strategy that caused it keeps running at home because you never connected the dots.
Generic AI
"Forward the email and I'll summarize it." It reads it, gives general suggestions. Tomorrow you're back to zero context again.
AI + Hatley
You forward the email to ingest@hatley.ai. Hatley connects it to the de-escalation strategy you've been using at home — the one that was working — and identifies that it's crossed a line at school. Same strategy, refined content, with a container rule so the outlet stays without the audience. Read the full story →
👫 A strategy works — but your co-parent doesn't know about it
Wing it
You text each other updates. Inconsistency at home. Your child learns to play both parents off each other without either of you realising.
Generic AI
Two separate chats. Two slightly different answers. Your co-parent does it differently because they never saw what you tried.
AI + Hatley
When Amy logs the counter-move Louise developed, Hatley surfaces the next adaptation — without Steven having to ask. They use different AI tools. Same family picture. The solution one parent finds is automatically available to the other. Read the full story →
📊 Your child's academic assessment results arrive
Wing it
"96th percentile — great job!" You celebrate and move on. The score is a moment in time. You don't know what it means for where you're trying to go.
Generic AI
"Strong in computation, could improve in some sub-domains. Consider extra enrichment." It optimises the score. It has no idea what you're actually building toward.
AI + Hatley
"His math is strong — 96th percentile reflects months of real work. But since we know your goals: you're two points from CTY eligibility, and there's a route that uses iReady scores directly, bypassing the SCAT testing most families spend months preparing for. The gap isn't more math — it's a speed-over-accuracy habit we've been tracking. The fix is the Student-Teacher exercise, not a new enrichment." Read the full story →
😤 You lost it this morning — and you know it
Wing it
You carry the guilt through the day. Nothing gets examined. The same conditions produce the same result next week.
Generic AI
"It sounds like a stressful morning. Try to be kind to yourself." Warm. Useless. The pattern stays invisible.
AI + Hatley
"The 9am pressure is yours, not theirs. They weren't running late — you were. The morning problem starts the night before. If they're going to bed late, there's no buffer. That's a structural problem, not a behaviour problem." No judgment. A real diagnosis. And a fix that actually changed the mornings. Read the full story →
🏕️ Summer is coming and you need to pick camps
Wing it
You ask around, check Google reviews, cross your fingers. You're choosing for a generic child, not the specific one you have.
Generic AI
"Here are highly-rated camps in your area." Based on what other people said — not on what makes your child thrive.
AI + Hatley
Hatley knows he does best in structured, small-group environments — it's been in the behavioral data for months. It maps that against available programs, surfaces the ones that actually fit, flags scheduling conflicts across both kids, and tells you which ones fill fast. You stop guessing and start choosing. Read the full story →
🤔 You wonder if you're doing enough — or the right things
Wing it
You ask friends. You keep up with the Joneses. You feel either smug or behind depending on the day. Either way, you're benchmarking against the wrong thing.
Generic AI
Research-backed, well-reasoned, and completely untethered from your actual child. It's telling you what works on average — for a child that isn't yours, toward a goal it doesn't know you have.
AI + Hatley
Hatley knows this child, this goal, and what you've already tried. Its coaching is grounded in developmental research — Gottman, Siegel, Ross Greene — applied to your specific situation. And as families track real goals and real outcomes, the benchmarks get sharper: not what sounds right on Reddit, but what actually worked for families building toward the same thing you are. Read the full story →

How it works

Three minutes to set up. A lifetime of context.

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Choose how to use Hatley

Option A: Connect Hatley to your AI — add it as a connector in Claude, ChatGPT, or Mistral. One link, one login.

Option B: Use Hatley directly — our web app works on any device. Same data, same coaching.

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Talk about your kids naturally

No forms. Just talk to your AI like you already do. Hatley captures what matters behind the scenes.

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Watch it get smarter over time

Every conversation compounds. Your AI learns what works for your family and keeps both parents in sync.

Our joint commitment

Parenting is hard. We're not here to make it easy — but to make the right way easier.

We're here to make it more intentional — so the hard days feel less painful and the good days feel even more rewarding.

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Growth mindset, alwaysEvery child is a work in progress. So is every parent.
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Assume the best intentBehind every challenging behavior is a child still learning.
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No judgment, everYou're here because you care. We're in this together.
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Your data, your controlEncrypted, family-isolated, never sold. Delete anytime.

FAQ

Common questions

Yes. Core features like recording moments and getting personalized guidance are free during our introductory period — and we're committed to keeping moment logging free permanently. Your family's data belongs to you, always.

Because you already have enough apps. Hatley is designed to fold into the tools you're already using — Claude, ChatGPT, Mistral — so there's nothing new to learn and no new habit to build. Just talk to your AI like you normally would, and Hatley works behind the scenes.

We also have a web app at hatley.ai where you can chat with Hatley directly, review your family's history, and manage your account. It works on any device — phone, tablet, or laptop. Add it to your home screen and it functions just like a native app, with instant updates and no downloads.

ChatGPT gives decent advice — but starts from zero every chat. It doesn't know your child's triggers, what you tried last week, or whether the timer worked. With Hatley, your AI says "last time, the 3-breath reset helped — try it again?" instead of the same generic answer. ChatGPT alone is a parenting hotline. ChatGPT + Hatley is a parenting advisor who's known your family for years.

Hatley's coaching is built on three layers.

The first is clinical research. Our frameworks are grounded in leading developmental science — including the Gottman Institute's emotion coaching methodology, Dr. Dan Siegel's whole-brain child development approach, Dr. Ross Greene's Collaborative & Proactive Solutions model, Zones of Regulation, and more. These aren't trending tips — they're peer-reviewed research, adapted for your child's specific age and temperament.

The second is aggregate behavioral data. As families use Hatley to log moments, try strategies, and track outcomes, we learn which approaches tend to work for children at similar ages with similar challenges. When your AI recommends something, it's weighted by what's proven effective in practice — not just what sounds good in a textbook.

The third is your family's own history. Hatley tracks every strategy you've tried, whether it worked, and under what conditions. Over time, it builds a personalized playbook — stopping what failed, doubling down on what's working, and connecting insights across bedtime, homework, meltdowns, and everything in between.

Absolutely. Hatley uses an open standard (MCP) — your family's data isn't locked to any platform. Switch between Claude, ChatGPT, Mistral, or any future AI that supports connectors. Your history comes with you.

Your family's data is encrypted and isolated. Hatley only stores structured moments and plans — not raw conversations. We never sell or share your data. You can request complete deletion anytime. We're building toward full local storage so your data never has to leave your device.

Yes. Forward anything about your kids to [email protected] — school updates from Seesaw, Tadpoles, Brightwheel, ParentSquare, HiMama, teacher notes, activity confirmations, whatever matters. We intelligently parse it, link it to the right child, and store it permanently.

No more losing years of updates when your child changes schools or a subscription lapses. Hatley becomes the permanent record. Your forwarding email address must match your Hatley account email.

Hatley Castle in British Columbia — the filming location for Professor Xavier's School for Gifted Youngsters in the X-Men films. We believe every child has superpowers waiting to be discovered and nurtured. Fun fact: the founder was married there.

Yes, two ways. If you use Hatley through Claude or ChatGPT, your AI can create Google Calendar events directly through its native integration. In the Hatley web app, coaching actions have a "Schedule" button that generates a standard calendar file (.ics) — tap it, pick a date, and your phone's calendar app opens with the event ready to confirm. Works with Apple Calendar, Google Calendar, Outlook, and any other calendar app. No login or permissions required.

Plan templates are structured preparation roadmaps for specific goals — like preparing for school admissions, developmental assessments, or enrichment milestones. When you adopt a template, Hatley creates a master plan with sub-themes and suggested milestones automatically. You customize the timeline and track progress step by step. Think of it as a project plan for your child's development, grounded in what actually works.

It depends on how you use Hatley. If you want to connect Hatley to Claude or ChatGPT, yes — Claude requires Pro or Team, and ChatGPT requires Pro/Team/Enterprise with Developer Mode. Mistral works with a free account.

You can also use Hatley directly at hatley.ai without any AI subscription at all. Our web app gives you the same coaching, the same family data, and the same features — no third-party AI account needed.