Parenting is your most important job. Don't wing it.
Context matters. Turn talk into actions, actions into habits, and habits into character — for you and your kids.
Works with Claude, ChatGPT, Mistral · Or use Hatley directly — same family data, same coaching
The challenge
Both parents working. Aging parents. Inflation. AI reshaping jobs overnight. The demands keep stacking — and the advice landscape is designed to capture your attention, not improve your outcomes.
By the time you're done with bosses, customers, colleagues, and deadlines, your social and emotional energy is spent. The people who matter most get whatever's left. When you pause to reflect, the regret hits — but you're too exhausted to break the cycle.
If the product is free, you are the product. TikTok tips, Instagram reels, ad-supported chatbots — their incentive is to keep you scrolling, not help your child. Anthropic (the makers of Claude) poked at exactly this during the Super Bowl. It's funny — but the underlying point is real.
Generic AI gives advice that sounds helpful — but it's designed to please you, not challenge you. It doesn't know your child, won't push back when you're reinforcing the wrong pattern, and won't flag something that needs real attention. Advice is cheap. The hard part is context — knowing your family, tracking what actually works, and turning talk into actions, actions into habits, and habits into character. That's what Hatley does.
The difference
Here's what real parenting moments look like — winging it, using generic AI, and with Hatley.
How it works
Option A: Connect Hatley to your AI — add it as a connector in Claude, ChatGPT, or Mistral. One link, one login.
Option B: Use Hatley directly — our web app works on any device. Same data, same coaching.
No forms. Just talk to your AI like you already do. Hatley captures what matters behind the scenes.
Every conversation compounds. Your AI learns what works for your family and keeps both parents in sync.
Our joint commitment
We're here to make it more intentional — so the hard days feel less painful and the good days feel even more rewarding.
Real families, real results
It recommended a calm-down technique that worked so well with my daughter I thought it had been reading her mind. Turns out it was tracking what worked with my son and adapted it for her.
I was venting about my daughter's meltdowns and expected the usual 'try deep breathing.' Instead it told me we'd tried that three times and it hadn't worked — then suggested something grounded in actual research. It pushed back on me. I needed that.
I used to spend the first five minutes re-explaining my son's whole situation. Now it just knows. It's like having a parenting advisor who actually paid attention last time.
We spend thousands a month on daycare and enrichments but I never knew if we were getting real value. Hatley tracks what's actually making a difference, helps me pick programs that match my kids' goals, and reinforces at home what they're learning in class. We'll spend millions raising these kids. Hatley is the best money I've spent making sure the rest of it counts.
I used to pick summer camps based on Google reviews and what friends recommended. Hatley matches camps to my son specifically — he thrives in structured, small-group environments and it knows that about him AND about the camps. Last summer was the first time he came home excited every single day.
Co-parenting across two houses used to mean constant texts about what happened at the other home. Now we both talk to our AI and the context is shared automatically — even though we use different platforms. The arguments stopped. Not because we agreed on everything, but because we had a system.
I uploaded my son's iReady report and within seconds it connected his scores to the development goals we'd been working on. No more digging through emails trying to remember what his teacher said.
I get dozens of emails a week from Seesaw and ParentSquare. I used to miss half of them. Now I just forward anything important to [email protected]. It saves the photos and teacher notes, flags things like schedule changes, and leaves the lunch menus alone. Last week it caught that my daughter's teacher mentioned trouble with transitions three times in a month. I would have completely missed that pattern.
Hatley gave us a roadmap to build the right traits from the beginning — curiosity, resilience, leadership — so our son has the character and skills that set him up for success. Not just looking the part with the help of college admission consultants when it's time to apply, but actually being that kid.
FAQ
Yes. Core features like recording moments and getting personalized guidance are free during our introductory period — and we're committed to keeping moment logging free permanently. Your family's data belongs to you, always.
Because you already have enough apps. Hatley is designed to fold into the tools you're already using — Claude, ChatGPT, Mistral — so there's nothing new to learn and no new habit to build. Just talk to your AI like you normally would, and Hatley works behind the scenes.
We also have a web app at hatley.ai where you can chat with Hatley directly, review your family's history, and manage your account. It works on any device — phone, tablet, or laptop. Add it to your home screen and it functions just like a native app, with instant updates and no downloads.
ChatGPT gives decent advice — but starts from zero every chat. It doesn't know your child's triggers, what you tried last week, or whether the timer worked. With Hatley, your AI says "last time, the 3-breath reset helped — try it again?" instead of the same generic answer. ChatGPT alone is a parenting hotline. ChatGPT + Hatley is a parenting advisor who's known your family for years.
Hatley's coaching is built on three layers.
The first is clinical research. Our frameworks are grounded in leading developmental science — including the Gottman Institute's emotion coaching methodology, Dr. Dan Siegel's whole-brain child development approach, Dr. Ross Greene's Collaborative & Proactive Solutions model, Zones of Regulation, and more. These aren't trending tips — they're peer-reviewed research, adapted for your child's specific age and temperament.
The second is aggregate behavioral data. As families use Hatley to log moments, try strategies, and track outcomes, we learn which approaches tend to work for children at similar ages with similar challenges. When your AI recommends something, it's weighted by what's proven effective in practice — not just what sounds good in a textbook.
The third is your family's own history. Hatley tracks every strategy you've tried, whether it worked, and under what conditions. Over time, it builds a personalized playbook — stopping what failed, doubling down on what's working, and connecting insights across bedtime, homework, meltdowns, and everything in between.
Absolutely. Hatley uses an open standard (MCP) — your family's data isn't locked to any platform. Switch between Claude, ChatGPT, Mistral, or any future AI that supports connectors. Your history comes with you.
Your family's data is encrypted and isolated. Hatley only stores structured moments and plans — not raw conversations. We never sell or share your data. You can request complete deletion anytime. We're building toward full local storage so your data never has to leave your device.
Yes. Forward anything about your kids to [email protected] — school updates from Seesaw, Tadpoles, Brightwheel, ParentSquare, HiMama, teacher notes, activity confirmations, whatever matters. We intelligently parse it, link it to the right child, and store it permanently.
No more losing years of updates when your child changes schools or a subscription lapses. Hatley becomes the permanent record. Your forwarding email address must match your Hatley account email.
Hatley Castle in British Columbia — the filming location for Professor Xavier's School for Gifted Youngsters in the X-Men films. We believe every child has superpowers waiting to be discovered and nurtured. Fun fact: the founder was married there.
It depends on how you use Hatley. If you want to connect Hatley to Claude or ChatGPT, yes — Claude requires Pro or Team, and ChatGPT requires Pro/Team/Enterprise with Developer Mode. Mistral works with a free account.
You can also use Hatley directly at hatley.ai without any AI subscription at all. Our web app gives you the same coaching, the same family data, and the same features — no third-party AI account needed.