Intentional parenting through AI
Because context matters. Turning talk into actions, actions into habits, and habits into character — for both you and your kids.
Works with Claude, ChatGPT, Mistral · More coming soon
The challenge
Both parents working. Aging parents. Inflation. AI reshaping jobs overnight. The demands keep stacking — and the advice landscape is designed to capture your attention, not improve your outcomes.
By the time you're done with bosses, customers, colleagues, and deadlines, your social and emotional energy is spent. The people who matter most get whatever's left. When you pause to reflect, the regret hits — but you're too exhausted to break the cycle.
If the product is free, you are the product. TikTok tips, Instagram reels, ad-supported chatbots — their incentive is to keep you scrolling, not help your child. Anthropic (the makers of Claude) poked at exactly this during the Super Bowl. It's funny — but the underlying point is real.
Generic AI gives advice that sounds helpful — "try a calming activity," "start by listening" — but it's designed to please you, not challenge you. It doesn't know your child, won't push back when you're reinforcing the wrong pattern, and won't flag something that needs real attention. Advice is cheap. The hard part is context — knowing your family, tracking what actually works, and turning talk into actions, actions into habits, and habits into character. That's what Hatley does.
The difference
| Wing it (Instinct) |
AI & Social Media (Information) |
AI + Hatley (Wisdom) |
|
|---|---|---|---|
| Family memory | Your memory (when you're not exhausted) | Resets every session | ✓ Persistent & evolving |
| Context & fit | Relies on your mood and energy | Generic & "pleasing" | ✓ Your child's unique traits & history |
| Source of knowledge | Generational practices (sometimes shaped by trauma) | Misaligned incentives (engagement > outcomes) | ✓ Expert frameworks + real family behavioral data |
| Action plan | When you have the energy | Theoretical advice | ✓ Concrete steps + scheduled nudges |
| Continuity | Repeating cycles | Isolated snapshots | ✓ Compounds over years |
| Co-parenting | Heavy communication lift | Fragmented / solo | ✓ Automatic sync & shared context |
| Safety & guardrails | Trial and error | Generic safety filters | ✓ Parenting-first frameworks |
| Calendar integration | Mental load | ✗ | ✓ Schedules actions & reminders |
| Learns what works | Gut feeling | ✗ | ✓ Tracks effectiveness per child |
What can Hatley do?
Your AI knows your kids' ages, interests, development goals, and location — then recommends specific programs with drive times and scheduling. Not generic lists. Actual plans.
Calendar + enrichmentHatley tracks the pattern, suggests strategies for your child's specific triggers, schedules nudges, and measures what's reducing the friction — so tomorrow is better than today.
Behavioral coachingDad coaches through a homework meltdown on Tuesday. Mom asks for help Thursday. Her AI already knows what happened, what was tried, and what the plan is. No more "why didn't you tell me?"
Co-parent syncCuriosity, resilience, empathy — worth cultivating because they set your child up to thrive. Hatley nurtures them authentically over years. When the time comes, your child won't need a consultant to manufacture a profile.
Long-term developmentYour AI already knows their emotional triggers, what's been tried before, and which calm-down techniques work for kids like yours. Specific guidance in the moment — not "have you tried deep breathing?"
Emotional regulationHatley tracks which strategies succeed and which fall flat — building a personalized playbook that gets smarter over time, not just a pile of bookmarked articles.
Effectiveness trackingDivorced or separated? Hatley keeps both homes aligned on what's working, what's been tried, and what the plan is — without requiring difficult conversations. Each parent's AI has the full picture so your child gets consistent support no matter which house they're at.
Co-parenting across householdsHow it works
Add Hatley as a connector in Claude, ChatGPT, or Mistral. One link, one login.
No forms. Just talk to your AI like you already do. Hatley captures what matters behind the scenes.
Every conversation compounds. Your AI learns what works for your family and keeps both parents in sync.
Get started
Choose your AI assistant below. Setup takes about three minutes.
A connector lets your AI access Hatley's family intelligence without leaving the chat — like giving it a specialized toolkit.
claude.ai → Profile → Settings → Connectors. Requires Pro or Team.
Click Custom MCP Connector, paste:
https://mcp.hatley.ai/mcpSet auth to OAuth 2.1, click Connect, sign in with your email.
Open a new chat and talk about your kids. Hatley guides onboarding inside the conversation.
chatgpt.com → Settings → Apps & Connectors → Advanced → Developer Mode. Requires Pro/Team/Enterprise.
In Apps & Connectors, click Create, name it "Hatley", paste:
https://mcp.hatley.ai/mcpClick Create and follow the login flow to create your account.
Start a new chat, click Add sources, select Hatley. Start talking about your kids.
chat.mistral.ai → Settings → MCP Connectors. Works with a free account.
Add a new connector, paste:
https://mcp.hatley.ai/mcpFollow the login flow to create your account.
Open a new conversation about your kids. Hatley handles onboarding.
Look for Connectors, Apps, MCP Servers, or Integrations in your AI's settings.
Create a new connection, paste:
https://mcp.hatley.ai/mcpChoose OAuth 2.1 or OAuth 2.0, then connect and sign in.
Start a conversation about your family. Need help? support@hatley.ai
Our joint commitment
We're here to make it more intentional — so the hard days feel less painful and the good days feel even more rewarding.
What parents are saying
I used to spend the first five minutes re-explaining my son's whole situation. Now it just knows. It's like having a parenting advisor who actually paid attention last time.
My husband and I finally feel on the same page. He logs a moment, I get the context the next morning. No more 'why didn't you tell me?'
The suggestions actually get better over time. It recommended a technique that worked so well I thought it had been reading her mind.
FAQ
Yes. Core features like recording moments and getting personalized guidance are free during our introductory period — and we're committed to keeping moment logging free permanently. Your family's data belongs to you, always.
You don't need another app. Hatley folds seamlessly into the AI assistants you already use — Claude, ChatGPT, Mistral. No new interface to learn. Same conversations, dramatically better results.
ChatGPT gives decent advice — but starts from zero every chat. It doesn't know your child's triggers, what you tried last week, or whether the timer worked. With Hatley, your AI says "last time, the 3-breath reset helped — try it again?" instead of the same generic answer. ChatGPT alone is a parenting hotline. ChatGPT + Hatley is a parenting advisor who's known your family for years.
Absolutely. Hatley uses an open standard (MCP) — your family's data isn't locked to any platform. Switch between Claude, ChatGPT, Mistral, or any future AI that supports connectors. Your history comes with you.
Your family's data is encrypted and isolated. Hatley only stores structured moments and plans — not raw conversations. We never sell or share your data. You can request complete deletion anytime. We're building toward full local storage so your data never has to leave your device.
Hatley Castle in British Columbia — the filming location for Professor Xavier's School for Gifted Youngsters in the X-Men films. We believe every child has superpowers waiting to be discovered. Fun fact: the founder was married there.
Claude requires Pro or Team. ChatGPT requires Pro/Team/Enterprise with Developer Mode. Mistral works free. CoPilot and Gemini are on our roadmap.